Here’s the tweet that sparked the episode. (https://twitter.com/wecomefromqns/status/834496223872745476 )
In this episode we are going to have a guided conversation much like our New Year episode about our most recent failed dating experience.
Keep It Simple – We recap our last failed dating experience
Using Iyanla’s Recovery After Long Term Relationship video as a guide (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-PC-2Vtkw8)
* Acceptance
* You have to accept that the relationship is over and that you will recover
* Grieving & healing requires that you share your thoughts and feelings about the loss so that you can adjust your mind and heart and spirit. Without sharing, chances are you’ll get stuck and sta stuck in mourning ( meaning thinking shoulda coulda wouldas = different outcome)
* Celebrate the good days, know that you deserve them
* Remove things from your environment that remind you of the person
* Figure out if you can still be friends
* You have left physically but the layers such as emotionally & spiritually leaving is still going on
* Establish boundaries and guidelines for communication
* Do the things you love even if you once loved doing those things as a couple
* Avoid a rebound relationship
* Seek professional help if depression becomes chronic
* This is just a place to start
in this video Iyanla ends with “It’s important that you train yourself not to be loyal to people who don’t treat you well. Be mindful to protect yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually from energy vampires and emotional rapists who will make you feel guilty about how they treat you, remember your first priority is you.”
Quote
People should not judge failed love affairs as failed experiences but as part of the growth process. Something does not have to end well for it to have been one of the most valuable experiences of a lifetime. – Ethel Person, medical doctor and psychoanalyst (via M
yleik IG Story)
Twitter @SylvesterMcNutt
I genuinely hope you get the happiness you deserve. I hope you have the courage to leave a toxic situation, the strength to recover from one, and the wisdom to know how to avoid them entirely.
Around The Way
Big-hearted Queens mom gives prom dresses to girls in need
http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/queens/big-hearted-queens-mom-prom-dresses-girls-article-1.3983558
Shoutout!
For Afro-Latinas, The Whitewashed Wellness Movement Often Feels Unhealthy — Even Harmful
Nory Pouncil – 05/25/18 – Calladitas No More
https://fierce.wearemitu.com/calladitas-no-more/why-being-afro-latina-wellness-space-toxic-af/
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